One day as I was on the phone crying to my cousin Tasha, because my relationship with Bob was over, I kept asking why God would allow this to happen to me. I thought I was faithful to God. As I cried out my heart to my cousin, she reminded me that we all go through trials and a time of testing, and this was mine. I couldn’t believe it I mean couldn’t God had chosen something else to test me on not this heartbreak. As I was thinking about this as we converse, she shared with me what had happened between her and God when she went through the heartbreak of adultery by her husband. During that time God gave her Lamentations 3:22-23 and how she had to stand on that every day. After I had gotten off the phone with her, the verses just played over and over in my head. I finally stopped what I was doing, and read Lamentations 3:22-23.
As I read I started to read I started to feel better as my tears were drying up. Then my eyes fell on verse 18 which says; “I will never forget this awful time, as I grieve over my loss.” I could just identify with that verse so much that my heart did a little leap. I knew that I wouldn’t forget this time because of how the heartbreak happened, and yet at the same time, I knew I was grieving over a loss of a dream that was never meant to be. I thought that Bob and I would get married, at least that what I was hoping. I was devastated to learn he was seeing someone else and that he wanted to marry her. I saw my dream about this guy shattered, and I had no hope that there was going to be someone out there for me because this is who I had wanted at that time.
I continued to read in verse 20; “Yet I still dare to hope when I remember this…” I paused, yet I still dare to hope when I remember this. It was like a boom from heaven just came down on me when I realized that I could dare to hope? What does that mean? How did it apply to what I was feeling right there in that moment. Yet at the same time I was comforted by that thought, “Yet, I still dare to hope.”
In these situations or any difficult situation you can do one of two things, turn to God or run from God. In Lamentations 3 Jeremiah was heartbroken over the destruction of Jerusalem and the temple even though he knew it was coming. To witness it first hand, was a heartbreaking situation. Jeremiah knew that he could either sink into his depression or turn to God. He chose to turn to God, in verses 22-23 he continues to say this “The faithful love of the LORDS never cease. His mercies are new every morning.” He dared to hope in the faithfulness of the LORD. He dared to hope in the faithful love of the LORD. He found his joy in remembering the faithfulness, the mercies of the LORD.
When I started to look at the heartbreak was a sign of God’s faithfulness and protectiveness to me, my perspective started to change very slowly. I turned to God with my hopelessness. I turned to God with my broken heart. As I did that, He started to change me for the better because he was mendingme. Now I can say with confidence that I still dare to hope when I remember this awful time. I’m remembering his faithfulness to me. I’m remembering his comforting truths. I’m remembering his mercy. I’m remembering his truth. I can still dare to hope that he is a faithful God keeping his promises to me, especially about marriage.
As you are walking through a trial that is looking bleak, and you are hurting inside you can:
Dare to hope in God’s faithfulness
Dare to hope that God has a plan for you
Dare to hope that there is hope in God
Dare to hope that He will never leave you or forsake you
Dare to hope in His great love for you
You can dare to hope because as it says in Romans 5:5 and hope does not disappoint us, because God’s love has been poured into our hearts through the Holy Spirit who has been given to us.
Lord thank you that you never leave me nor forsake me. That you are walking with me during this trial/situation. I pray that I can find joy in you, that I find hope in you.
In Jesus name amen.
Lamentations 3:18, 20-23New Living Translation (NLT)
18 I cry out, “My splendor is gone!
Everything I had hoped for from the Lord is lost!”
20 I will never forget this awful time,
as I grieve over my loss.
21 Yet I still dare to hope
when I remember this:
22 The faithful love of the Lord never ends!
His mercies never cease.
23 Great is his faithfulness;
his mercies begin afresh each morning.