Genesis 29:31 When the LORD saw that Leah was not loved, He opened her womb, but Rachel was barren.
Have you ever been picked over? What about when a spouse cheats on you and you wonder why was the other person better than you? I know what it is like to be picked over for someone else (job, school etc.). I also have known women who husband had cheated on her and for a while kept wondering what was wrong with me. I know of a guy friend who really liked a certain girl who then moved away not wanting to do a long relationship thing, and he starts to think was it worth it, am I worth it.
In our culture we put so much weight on being chosen by the perfect “one”, to be chosen by the perfect job, to be chosen by the perfect group of friends instead of knowing that you are already chosen by the perfect person his name is Jesus.
When you look in the bible the person who really understood this, who lived with the heartache of not being the one chosen by a man or even by her own family is Leah. Who was not chosen by Jacob to love, trick by her father, but was chosen by God to love and cherish. Her full story is found in Genesis 29.
We don’t know much about Leah, we know that she was not as beautiful as Rachel. We know that she was weak eyed. We don’t know if she had a pleasant attitude or not. What we know for certain that Laban tricked Jacob into marrying Leah. Jacob worked for seven years for the more beautiful sister Rachel whom he loved. When it came time for the wedding Laban gave Jacob Leah and Jacob didn’t know until after the wedding night!
Can you just imagine the pain that went through Leah’s heart? We don’t know how Laban tricked her saying that Jacob asked for her hand in marriage, or if Rachel got really scared etc… But then to wake up when your husband says where is my wife Rachel after a night of probably passionate love making had to hurt a lot. Not only that to realize that in after your bride week is done he will marry another person! Can you imagine the insecurity that popped up for Leah, and the pain that she went through?
Well God did and he opened up her womb to bear children. We know that Leah longed to be loved and chosen by Jacob. We know this by the names of her first three sons: Ruben; my husband will surely love me now, Simeon; the Lord has seen that I was not loved, Levi; my husband will be attached to me now I have given him 3 sons. How much did that hurt when Jacob still didn’t return her affection? Finally Leah turned to the LORD whom she knew loved her more than her husband. Turned to the LORD who could only fill in that missing piece that she was longing for in her heart and in her life! We see this in the naming of her fourth son Judah (This time I will praise the LORD). She finally understood where her worth lies, her worth was not in the number of children she bore, but it was in the LORD
Of course every person on earth longs to be loved and chosen here on earth but if you can’t understand that there is a God who loves you more than any person here on earth. He has chosen you! He chose you to love, to be with forever. It doesn’t matter if you do not get picked by a person here on earth, because you have been chosen by the creator of the Universe.
This is something I believe if you understand and take to heart, and then everything else around you will fall into place no matter what happens in your life. I’m not saying that it is easy thing to do, sometimes it’s a fight to accept, but it is the truth. You are chosen, you are wanted, and you are loved.
If you are in a situation where your spouse cheated on you and you are asking yourself; why my spouse didn’t choose me. Your husband or wife did something foolish and hurtful, but remember you are chosen by the Father to be loved and cherish, For God loves you and has chosen you to be his.
If you are in a dating situation and getting to the DTR and if you are wondering if the person will chose you. Remember and know that you have already been chosen by the Father to be loved and cherish, For God loves you and has chosen you to be his bride.
If you are in a situation where your family is choosing not to talk to you because of your decision to follow Jesus Christ. You have been chosen by the Father to be loved and cherish, For God loves you and has chosen you to be his, and part of a bigger family who loves you.
You are chosen, you have been chosen by God and He loves you.