Archive | May 2013

Rejected, What do you mean?

He was despised and rejected by men, a man of sorrows, and acquainted with grief and as one from whom men hide their faces he was desired and we esteemed him not. Isaiah 53:3

Who has not been rejected before? But what happens when you were rejected? Did you cry; were you passive, did you become bitter? I have been rejected plenty of times in love, work, friends and you know what it sucks! I was rejected by guys that I likes! And you know what it sucks. Here’s a question what should my attitude be?
I have asked these questions lately because I have seen people either handle rejection well other’s not so well. You know what, Jesus was and is still rejected to this day. You may have forgotten that, or may not have known that he was and is rejected by men. The Son of God knew that when he came that men would not listen to him. He knew that they would ridicule him. He knew that men would reject the words he was saying. He knew that he would be betrayed by a close friend. Guess what Jesus deals with rejection on a daily base. Here is the good news He is strong to handle it. He is gracious, when he is hurt by it but he doesn’t come down and destroy us because he can do that. No Jesus remains faithful and just. He doesn’t curse when someone rejects him. He doesn’t ignore the person because he is hurt. He doesn’t go and complain to others what a jerk the person is. He just doesn’t do it. He handles rejection sadly well, and full of grace. Can we do that?
When Jesus was here on earth he prepared his disciples for rejection. He knew that because of what they would do in his name, that people would reject them. When He sent them out two by two he told him if the person doesn’t want you there just leave that place shake the dust off your feet as a testimony (Mark 6:11). Wow he didn’t say curse them out, he didn’t say gossip about them, he didn’t say bemoan the issue to death, no he said turn and keep going.
This needs to be our attitude when it comes to rejections. It is hard to overcome rejection, and it hurts so much. If you learn to develop a good reaction when it comes to rejection then you can be in a better spot handle rejection.
Instead of having a negative attitude: We can and need to turn the other cheek or as Jesus said shake the dust off your feet as a testimony and keep moving. We should not be held down by the weight of the rejection. We can and should not curse the person out. We really should not ignore the person; in fact if the situation allows maybe talk with the person. It is hard to resist the negative reaction that comes with dealing with rejection but should we cave in?
How does a person handle rejection well? The hardest thing that we can do is to get on our knees to pray for the person or situation that rejected you. We need to forgive. We need to stop complaining to everyone who listens, just complain to a wise counsel in your life who can then pray for you. We need to stop becoming bitter and delight in the Lord God instead because remember he never rejects you, he delights in you and rejoices over you (Zeph 3:17). Look to Jesus who handles rejection every day take in his joy. Finally remember who you are. You are a child of the beloved King who loves you, who died for you. Who will never leave you nor forsake you aka would never reject you. Definitely do not let the rejection hold you down for too long.

Jesus and Waiting

Matthew 24:36 No one knows about that day not even the angels in heaven nor the Son, but only the Father.

Recently I turned 30, and something really bizarre happened to me, I started to get the “you need to hurry up and get married and have kids” talks and looks. You know what, that is something is not good to hear and doesn’t help at all! What it does for me and probably for other women who are single and really want to get married is the feelings of loneliness, hurt, self-check (not the good one), heartsickness,  bitterness, desperation, or anger at God. That is not a place that a woman should be in at all but for some of us we go into that place with the help of others and forget all about God.

Then I started to wonder if Jesus understood what I (and many of us) am going through maybe advocate to God that it is getting harder to bear.

As I was listening to a message by Louie Giglio he said that as you wait God is waiting with you. I was like okay sure. Fast forwarded to a message from Francis Chan on Waiting in Faith he was talking about the End days but as he was reading Matthew 24 and when he got to verse 36 and read it, it clicked. Jesus is waiting just as I am to claim His bride (me a groom).

What! You mean Jesus is waiting to claim His bride. You know what, he certainly is waiting. See Jesus knows who his bride is. He wants her, to be with her once again. He has to wait patiently for the time when the Heavenly Father says go. Now does that not sound familiar? See my sisters and brothers we are waiting on an earthly mate and it is hard at times to wait.

In Isaiah 34: 16: None of these will be missing, not one will lack her mate; For it is his mouth that has given the order and his Spirit will gather them together. It is God who will give the order for when we are ready. It is God who will bring you and the second together. Sometimes we wait what we think is a long time, but maybe because you are not ready, maybe the other person is not ready. Maybe the reason that Jesus can’t claim his bride yet is that she is not ready in God’s time.

Know this Jesus knows what is like to wait and do so patiently. He knows when you are feeling alone, scared, even hurt. He was here on earth with his bride and he had to leave her. Can you imagine what He is feeling? I wonder how often does he turn to the Father and ask is it time, and wait for an answer or no answer.  When we ask God is it time yet, we have to wait for an answer or even the answer of not yet? Sometimes it is like really God not yet!

You know the saying WHWJD (What would Jesus Do?) we have to be like Jesus and wait patiently until God gives the order. We have to wait until God gathers you and the second together. We don’t know the time or the hour only God knows. He knows what you are going through, he understands, he sees his Son go through it too. Unlike Jesus who submits beautifully, we scream, we run, we sin. If we can be like Jesus when God says not now, submit to him saying whatever your will is Father I’ll do it, instead of screaming at God throwing your fist at God and then going your own way. How much better will we be for submitting?

When you hear “you better hurry up” a good response is don’t talk to me talk to the Father in heaven. When you hear “you better hurry up” a good response is why don’t you join me in prayer to the Father and then set me up with someone (if you trust the person in the latter, if not join me in prayer will do).

When you hear of someone getting engaged and your heart is hurting go into praise to the Father and cry if you need too.

When you hear God doesn’t understand what you are going through, Jesus knows exactly what you are going through.

When you hear Jesus is waiting with you, know that He is because is waiting for his bride as you are waiting for your second.

Prayer:

Dear Father thank you for waiting with me in this time. I don’t always understand why it is taking so long, but I wait for your timing. As I am waiting please help me to rejoice with others, to keep moving.

In Jesus Name Amen.